Example2

Example2:

Example2

One dream with four elements.

Dream1
I walked in a small old Dutch town along a canal and was on my way to the train station. There was a sandy wall in the canal. I walked over it so that I could cut a corner, but the sand began to shift and I got buried under the sand. I could just raise my hand above it to keep an opening so that I could breathe. I got very scared. Some children were playing there. They saw it happen but they did not do anything.

Dream Element1
"Small old Dutch town with old gables"

Self-enhancement = 2	Interpersonal = 4
Positive = 8	Negative = 0

correlates with the following Life Issue to a degree of .63
Life Issue1
"I can enjoy things that are not obligatory; doing things only for pleasure"

Self-enhancement = 3	Interpersonal = 7
Positive = 15	Negative = 0

Dream Element2
"The sand of the wall started to shift; I was not able to stop it and I got buried"

Self-enhancement = 0	Interpersonal = 0
Positive = 0	Negative = 12

correlates with the following Life Issue to a degree of .92:
Life Issue2
"John is always able to let me know in a nasty and exacting way what he is expecting me to do, and I am not able to let him know that I can't do so or don't want to"

Self-enhancement = 2	Interpersonal = 1
Positive = 0	Negative = 16

Dream Element3
"I just could raise my hand above it to keep an opening so that I could breathe"

Self-enhancement = 2	Interpersonal = 1
Positive = 3	Negative = 12

correlates with the following Life Issue to a degree of .93:
Life Issue3
"The moral: You are an Egoist, it is bad to have something for your own; apparently I must always give or communicate something"

Self-enhancement = 2	Interpersonal = 1
Positive = 0	Negative = 16

Dream Element4
"Those playing children, who saw it, did not do anything"

Self-enhancement = 0	Interpersonal = 0
Positive = 1	Negative = 13

correlates with this Life Issue to a degree of .98:
Life Issue4:
"I blamed John, being an expert, for not having recognized that we needed help, and when I gave indications, that he prevented things"

Self-enhancement = 0	Interpersonal = 0
Positive = 0	Negative = 16

Interpretation:

Lack of communication is suffocating this relationship.

Each of the Elements, both Dream and Life, may be considered as one. Element 1 is very different from the other three Elements. It has a very high Positive score (23) and very low Negative score (0). The correlation between the Dream and Life Element is only moderate (.63). However, it clearly reveals your desire for a more equal and intimate relationship as evidenced by your Interpersonal score (11). Your incorporation of a "small old Dutch town with old gables" in your dream is fraught with symbolism. The old towns of Holland express an intimate and human architecture, concerned with everyday events, and it developed out of the civil and domestic life. The fantastic gables and red roofs, above which rise slender spires and belfries surmounted by leaden fleches and wrought vanes, together with the waterways and canal life, the windmills, and changing skies, inspired the masters of the great Dutch School of painting to picture the intimate events associated with them.

The remaining Elements: 2,3 and 4; are overwhelmingly Negative (Element 2 = 28, Element 3 = 28 and Element 4 = 29) and show an extremely strong correlation (Element 2 = .92, Element 3 = .93 and Element 4 = .98). Low scores for both Self-enhancement and Interpersonal indicates that neither self-enhancement nor interpersonal is being satisfied. It is encouraging that you have managed "to keep an opening" allowing you to breathe.

You feel emotionally overwhelmed by a situation that causes you anxiety. You may feel unable to cope. Similarly, you may feel that an emotionally overbearing partner is stifling your psychological growth. It is important that you re-establish your sense of self-identity. Your dream likely symbolizes some sort of deprivation, usually psychological or intellectual.

The indifference of the children signifies that John does not prove his affections in the most appropriate way.

Your hprofile shows, although not the greatest difference from the norm, a high score (+.92) for negative emotions. Additionally, your Failure score is much higher than the norm (+2.50); but your Success score is much higher than the norm (+2.58) and your Striving score is much higher than the norm (+2.36). The last two observations are encouraging. The lack of communication must be resolved if this relationship is to survive.

Suggestion for dream rehearsal using visualization and guided imagery:

You walk in a small old Dutch town along a canal on your way to the train station. You come to a bridge over the canal. On the other side you see your husband motioning you to come to the other side where he waits. You shake your head no and motion for him to come across to your side of the bridge. He reluctantly crosses the bridge and informs you that he had indicated for you to cross to his side of the bridge. You respond by saying that this time he crosses to your side. Next time you will cross to his side.

Addendum:

Nothing is more challenging than dealing with people who show the trait of controlling others. For the controlling personalities, life seems to be easy, when they give commands and difficult, when they are in the receiving end. Such a behavior often sets boundaries in relationships, invading the peace of mind of the others, who are being controlled. You should know how to deal with your husband in such a way that doesn't hurt his feelings or self-esteem.

Affirm that you are not going to be controlled by your husband. You should not present yourself in such a way that he finds it easy to overshadow you.
You cannot ignore him completely. In such a situation, you need to show your full cooperation. Make him feel that both of you work as a team and that neither of you is the lord or the master.
The sense of individuality is completely lost when people are amidst controlling personalities. You should reassert the fact that you don't need anyone to control your behavior.
Put across your thoughts in a sensible manner. In order to facilitate a response in your favor, you should express your feelings in a levelheaded way. Communicate with him about the fact that you feel offended by his peculiar mannerism.
Controlling personalities often dominate others and become aggressive when they are not listened or agreed to. While dealing with your husband, you should not project yourself as a weak person, because he might take you for granted and start imposing his "rules" upon you.
Withdrawing support is found to be yet another trait of controlling personalities. It is his way to make you believe that you cannot do things without him. In this case, you need to make it loud and clear that you can still make decisions on your own. Show him that you just want to share things with him, instead of depending upon his support.

**h Profile**
Characters	<-	norm	->
Male/Female Percent		N/A
Familiarity Percent	-1.74
Friends Percent	-1.30
Family Percent	-0.91
Dead & Imaginary Percent	-0.19
Animal Percent	-0.41
Social Interaction Percent
Aggression/Friendliness Percent		N/A
Befriender Percent		N/A
Aggressor Percent		N/A
Physical Aggression Percent		N/A
Social Interaction Ratios
A/C Index	-0.56
F/C Index	-0.51
S/C Index	-0.03
Settings
Indoor Setting Percent	-1.80
Familiar Setting Percent		N/A
Self-Concept Percents
Self-Negativity Percent			+0.02
Bodily Misfortunes Percent	-1.27
Negative Emotions Percent			+0.92
Dreamer-Involved Success Percent			+0.15
Torso/Anatomy Percent			+2.22
Dreams with at Least One:
Aggression	-1.46
Friendliness	-1.41
Sexuality	-0.38
Misfortune			+1.91
Good Fortune	-0.48
Success			+2.58
Failure			+2.50
Striving			+2.36